Date and location of meeting: San Francisco, March/April 2017
Okay, so I am writing this from NYC (where I now live!) and am basically in love with this guy I met in San Francisco last week.
I arrived in San Francisco at the end of March, and as usual, got to swiping as soon as I landed. It was a Friday, and I had spent the day walking the Golden Gate Bridge, was forced to catch two buses to get home due to my phone running out of battery, and was consequently exhausted. I wanted to rest for the evening but I also would not have minded winding down with some wine.
Enter Tech Guy.
We had been messaging since I arrived in SF. Tech Guy had super liked me, and I swiped right out of obligation. I thought he was boy next door cute, but by no means was he a mega babe.
So that Friday night, I came home exhausted from walking the bridge and was preparing for a night in when Tech Guy messaged me saying he was probably going to have a “calm night” and to let him know if I wanted to meet up for a drink. In the early evening, I replied that I’d like a drink, and we then made plans to meet up for a drink later that night at a dive bar within walking distance of both of us.
Around 7:45pm that night, I got ready and left my place. I was dressed casually in a black denim mini, striped turtleneck, denim jacket and black ankle boots. He got to the bar a little earlier than me and walked up the street to meet me. My suspicions were confirmed when I saw him – he was only a little bit taller than I was. He was not hideous but not the usual 10 that would warrant a hook up on the first night.
Nevertheless, we went to elbo room. I was unsatisfied with his bar choice – it was a large dive bar with ageing decor, that smelled like alcohol had seeped into the furniture. The staff were tattooed, and they didn’t serve wine. Masking my discontent, I ordered a gin and tonic, and sipped it slowly while Tech Guy asked numerous questions about me and I answered them politely, asking him questions in return.
Tech Guy was 31 (but looked younger), white, and worked for a well known social media company. He was originally from New York, but moved to SF in the last year. He asked me a lot of unusually direct questions, such as the name of my ex, which I found a little odd, but thought he might be nervous or shy. We finished our drinks and then walked outside. I was almost ready to call it a night, but then he asked if I wanted to grab another drink elsewhere. I told him that I usually drink wine, and he said he knew a place nearby.
We walked about 10 minutes to a nearby wine bar. At this point, I was already a bit drunk – those American bartenders and their free pours! The wine glasses at the bar we were at also abnormally large. As I hadn’t had a large dinner, I could feel myself getting very drunk very quickly, and at this point, was freely offering up information about myself to Tech Guy that I wouldn’t normally have. I got fairly drunk at the wine bar, and don’t remember many things I said, or how long we stayed there, but after we finished our glasses, Tech Guy settled up the bill and as we walked outside, he asked if I wanted to come to his place to watch a movie, no expectations. Of course, drunk me acquiesced, but with no intention at all of hooking up.
We walked back to his place and I must have been babbling drunkenly at this point, but also remember feeling overwhelmingly tired. I was relieved to get back to his place. He lived in a cute studio apartment in Hayes Valley. After we got back to his place, he put Moonlight on, which undoubtedly, was kind of heavy for a Friday night and first Tinder date.
After he put the movie on, he told me to lie down, and I rested my head on his lap. He would lower his head intermittently and kiss me on the forehead, which soon progressed to kissing, with tongue, but only after he asked if he could kiss me. And from kisses on the lips, it progressed to heavy petting. We then moved to the bed, where he peeled my clothes off hungrily, and then said he was going to go down on me. His technique was not terrible, but not the best I have had. Afterwards, he asked if he could fuck me- I said yes.
The sex was quite pleasant despite that I was half asleep/drunk and couldn’t do much. He had a large penis, which surprised me because of his height, and lankiness. We had sex once, for 10 minutes or less, before he came. After that, I think we lay in bed talking or kissing, in which he gave me many compliments, saying I was really beautiful, and that I had a perfect vagina. We had sex again, the second time was a bit more rough, which I preferred. After that, we fell asleep, but I woke up in the middle of the night, and Tech Guy was also awake. We started talking again, and kissing, and eventually had sex again. Like the other times, it was short. He was extremely affectionate with me, and held me all night, and asked if he could buy me breakfast in the morning. I said yes, and asked him if he always tried to take all the girls he met from Tinder home on the first night. He said no, but that I was so cute and only here for a few nights, that he had to try. With my head sufficiently larger due to all the compliments in the space of one evening, I fell asleep, content, wrapped in someone’s arms.
The next morning, I woke up due to the light streaming in through the window, and promptly stated my discontent. I told Tech Guy, I didn’t understand how anyone could sleep without blinds, and asked if he had an eye shade to cover my eyes. He went to get me one, and I tried to go back to sleep, but had a throbbing headache. We continued talking, and he continued giving me compliments, my favourite of which was: “Everyone’s going to love you in New York”, spoken with genuine warmth and enthusiasm. We then joked about how seedy it looked, with me on the bed, wearing the blindfold, and my arms stretched above my head (little did he know what I was into). All morning, he had also been joking about adding me on Facebook and liking all of my posts.
Shortly after this, he led my hand to his penis, once again, erect, and while I stroked it for a few minutes, I was not in the state of mind for morning sex. After asking if I was up for morning sex, and receiving a no, TG asked I would do him a “huge favour”. I asked what it was, and Tech Guy replied, “Will you watch me masturbate?”
I said sure, and engaged in a bit of voyeurism for the next few minutes. He came on my stomach, and afterwards, I took a shower and got ready to head out for breakfast. When I came out of the bathroom, he was sitting on the bed, wearing glasses, and I thought he looked adorable like that, and wondered why I hadn’t realised it earlier. We chatted for a little while, before he hopped in the shower, and shortly after, we walked to a nearby cafe for breakfast.
After being seated, we started talking politics, and as usual, whenever I get on the topic of politics, went into an anti-Trump diatribe. He shared my sentiments, and then said he loved hearing my opinions. After brunch, he walked me to the BART stop. We chatted all the way there, and he would kiss my forehead intermittently as we walked. When we got to the BART station, he gave me his clipper card to use, but said the card would warrant a second meeting on either Sunday or Monday. He suggested I come to his office on Monday for breakfast, and he would show me around.
Later that day, he messaged me saying he was glad we got the chance to meet up. We continued messaging back and forth until Monday, when I came to visit him at work and I scored a free breakfast (yay for tech companies and free food!)
We sat there bantering over breakfast, and as we did so, TG said he had a speech to give me when he showed me around later. After eating breakfast, he basically showed me around his entire office, and introduced me to his colleagues. The office spanned three or four levels, had games rooms and an outdoor deck- I was burning with jealousy the entire time. At the end, he took me into a room designated for what seemed like hanging out, and we sat in a square sofa booth. We were the only people in the room, and he said he was going to give me the speech now.
He began with, “I just wanted to say I really like you, and I think you’re so cool and it wasn’t just a random hookup.” There was definitely a bit more but my memory is quite hazy. At the end of the speech, he told me to come in for a kiss. It was all very romantic comedy-esque. After the kiss, I told him I didn’t have a speech for him, and thought he was joking when he said he was going to give me a speech earlier. Right after that, I decided it was time to leave for my flight to NYC. TG said he’d walk me to the BART.
While walking there, he told me he would be in NYC in June and would love to see me then. With that, we parted, and I left SF full of warm, fuzzy feelings.